Indiana

In Defense of Marriage

By Abdul Hakim-Shabazz

In 30 days, the lovely Mrs. Shabazz and I will celebrate our first anniversary.  Like most newlyweds, we’re looking forward to it.  And unlike most married men, I already have her gift taken care of and arrangements made to mark the occasion.  I bring this up not to brag, well there is a little bit of that, but if I were to drop the ball on this stuff,  it would do more to harm my marriage than any gay or lesbian couple tying the knot would.

A federal judge in California has ruled that state’s ban on gay marriage violates the U.S. Constitution.  The judge went on to say there is no rational basis to ban same-sex marriage.  I agree.   I have batted this issue around in my head for years and I can’t think of one practical reason as to why gay marriage shouldn’t be legal.

It doesn’t take money out of my pocket, nor infringe on my property rights, so why should I care.  In the nearly three years that my wife have been together either as dating or a married couple, any problems we’ve had were not related to gay marriage.  When I look at my own parents who’ve been married for 42 years, any near misses they had were not related to gay marriage.

So how does gay marriage, hurt “traditional marriage”?  I submit to you it doesn’t.  If you look at the problems facing most married couples and families I think the last thing you’ll see on that list causing problems is gay marriage.  I  submit that the taxes and excess government are more detrimental to families than my gay next door neighbors who want to enjoy the same benefits my wife and I do.

Maybe we’re trying to ban the wrong thing.

Full post as published by Indiana Barrister on August 05, 2010 (boomark / email).